There's a startling difference between what men want in a wife and in a daughter

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The patriarchy can't get its house in order.

Because according to a new online survey of 818 men conducted by Hart Research Associates, men want startlingly different things in potential wives and daughters.

As in:

• Wives should be attractive, daughters should not.

• Daughters should be independent, wives should not.

We originally spotted the survey, titled "the Shriver Report Snapshot: An Insight Into the 21st Century Man" on the Wall Street Journal.

"Reading the survey as a whole, the qualities that men want most in a daughter — intelligent, independent, strong, and principled — are the qualities that help women thrive in the workplace," writes Jeff Horwitt, a vice president at Hart Research Associates, in the Journal.

But evidently, those qualities aren't entirely what heterosexual guys want in their wives.

Here are the full details:

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(Skye Gould)

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